Grit & Wonder

#26 TUNING - a guide into your Blind Spots

In this episode I wondered - what if those GO-TO solutions that our brain comes up with when facing a difficult situation are the exact reason for our stuck-ness? The source of what creates MORE OF THE SAME. And Probably more of the current problems as well?
The strategies that have served us well, the stories we tell about ourselves (like… I am not disciplined enough) - they totally work sometimes.But they tend to take up lots of space until they seem to be the ONLY solution or way to see yourself. 
Or let me put it this way: Whenever you direct your light of attention onto ONE (or even a couple of) thing(s) - ALL THE OTHER things now lie in the shadow!!And the longer you stay with that one focal point - the more sure you can be that there is MUCH ELSE to explore.
I will introduce you to a technique I call TUNING to spot those habits and use them as a point of orientation to explore the OPPOSITE! Which is usually a BLIND spot :D
Not because it’s better to have less blind spots.. but because it will set you on a journey to acquire more TOOLS and different patterns to use consciously when you see them fitting. So that you won’t try to mend your cloths with a hammer… 
 
 
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#25 Own Your Wants

Remember as a kid when you really wanted some candy before dinner?And your mom would not let you have some because… it does not make sense. And you don’t NEED it. 
As grown ups - many of us still relate to our WANTS as if there was a mom telling us off for desiring what we don’t actually NEED.How this is playin out then in our inner emotional landscape is us today looks like spending lots and lots of brain power guilt tripping about WANTING something in the first place and secondly finding seemingly logical (let me tell you they are never logical!) reasons for why we actually really NEED the thing we want so bad. 
So wer are squeezing your dreams and wishes into the very very small „I believe I NEED this“ box in the hope that THEN it will feel SAFE to go after what we most DESIRE. But…NEEDING and WANTING /DESIRE have very little in common. The neat Venn diagram we so desperately try to produce in our minds does not exist. Simply because NEEDING something implies a purpose or a goal. I need a match if I want to light a candle. I need a computer to write an email.
When it comes to our lives - what do we really NEED?… to survive? A bit of grain and a tent…?If you are reading this email - you most likely got that covered  (which is amazing btw! And something not to take for granted!) There IS REALLY NO OVERLAP with your desires though - and its ok.
In this episode I want to clean up those mind-contortions disguised as „voice-of-reason“ and give your full permission to OWN what you WANT. Viel SpaßBussi Mirjam 
 
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#24 WISH DAY - re-boot your realtionship with your DESIRES

WISH DAY is a practice I developed for everybody who wants to re-calibrate their relationship with their own DESIRES, WISHES and WANTS by feeling safe around having them in the first place! 
WHY? Coz the reality of how most of us think about our desires stems from a deep distrust in our ability to be with them and / or fulfill them in a way that does get us in trouble and sounds something like: „Its a bottom less pit! I am greedy AF! I will never have enough! I am def. not to be trusted with any of it - so lets just not even get started!! This way no one gets hurt!“ 
Let’s change this! Tune in for all the juicy details on the practice and start wishing away today :DI cannot wait for you to open the floodgates of goodness!
 

#23 To Do Lists are DEAD

We keep To Do Lists in the hope that one day we will be DONE. It’s a tool we often religiously use in the hope to finally be on TOP of things not noticing that our list have long taken the seat at the steering wheel ruling US. 
In this weeks episode we will explore what your subconscious mind is convinced you will FEEL like once you have completed all your tasks (it is one of our favorite places for escape fantasies! Let me assure you!) instead of RUSHING to this imaginary finish line (which btw… would probably mean you were DEAD!). 
And since we are at it - why do we call it TO DO lists??Who cares about people DOING things, being busy? Has this ever really got you somewhere in the first place? And who decided that thing was a thing that NEEEEEDED to be done?  
Time to get in charge. 
Tune into this weeks episode to tag along as I walk you through many different ways of how to approach da lists and how I use them for MY purposes.
 
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# 22 Insecurity

No - this is not a manual on how to be LESS insecure! If this is what I were offering here - I would agree with your story, that insecurity is a problem.
And this is where we will begin in this weeks episode:Wiggling a little at that deeply rooted believe that insecurity is UNPROFESSIONAL. If this is you I would love to offer you following questions (for the sake of the wiggling):What is YOUR definition of professionality? How would you love others to show up in the work context? What behaviors would open up a business situation? What would allow for more REAL you to express?
Wonderful. 
Then comes a plot twist…Coz when we are insecure - we are usually dying for one thing in particular: EXTERNAL VALIDATION!In the form of hoping that other people will take us seriously, will agree with us, love our content etc…Which usually sounds very innocent and like you really CARE FOR THE OTHER.Something like…„I really want them to have a transformative experience during my workshop“ 
However what is really going on when you are looking for relieve of your insecurity in the reaction of the other:The whole interaction actually becomes about YOU!Yes - you read that correctly. You scan what’s going on in that moment for signs that they ARE taking you seriously, that they in fact DO approve of your content… You are not actually present, as in listening, feeling out the room… for the good of your client. Which would then allow you to really show up with care for who you want to serve (if that is what you want!). 
Listen on for more intricate side effects of NOT owning our insecurities!
 
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#21 Ode to Non-Linear Timelines and Creation

This is an invitation to meander with me and ponder about the non-linearity of timelines (or then… time waves, vortexes and spirals) that the magic act of CREATION holds for us. And - yes I am also talking to YOU, with the so-called non-creative, practical business! (If you need to continuously adapt and change to shifts in the market - you are also CREATING!) 
What is mostly talked about is the CONTAINER aspect of projects.How much money, time, how many people when and where… So Important. So necessary. Without cash, time and skill allocated NOTHING is going to happen.
However - the kind of project-management side of things is already getting lots of airtime.No wonder - it is so easily accessible with our devices, logical mind and spreadsheet obsession. 
But what about the CREATING itself? I mean - without the actual JUICE the stuff around it renders itself obsolete. And the big problem I see is that the creation process is often approached and conducted with the same mindset with which we set up the framework. 
NO!!! Please! That literally sucks out the joy and life of what could be a wondrous adventure and f*** it just does not work this way. I mean - you will still squeeze out SOMETHING. But it will have the flavor of the white knuckling it costed you to push it out. It won’t carry your oh so special scent and glimpses of your genius.  
In this episode we will talk about how you can OPEN space for co-creating with and learning THROUGH your project, wondering and surprises. How to get messy and endulge in non-linear timelines.
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#20 Not Knowing

„I don´t know!“Such a common placeAnd oh! how I love this phrase - for the mere fact that, depending on how you use it, it can mean a lifetime of agony or the doorway to the most unexpected findings emerging from the unknown. 
What makes the difference is the story you tell yourself about YOU, when you don’t know. Do you think you should?
It´s definitely not comfortable to lean into the space that we did not know we did not know. But met with curiosity, delicious qualities like clarity, surprises, beauty, novelty… will come inevitably your way. 
If you wanna learn more about how to use Not Knowing as a potent doorway to the unexpected and life-altering… tune into this weeks episode.
 
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#19 Half-Ass Believing in Yourself is a Good Thing

We love to fantasize. You have been imagining that moment a million times. And its gonna be perfect. That moment - when it will feel RIGHT to get started, or take that next big step. And right meaning … you finally believe you can actually make it. 
Ironically - that waiting… for the moment when you are fully sure of yourself and your future success is a guarantee for NOT EVER moving an inch towards it in real life. 
And even if your fantasized sureness would start to be very real for just a second - the moment you actually got into the ring, things would get messy. Stuff would happen you did not anticipate. 
And your confidence and believe would be CHALLENGED. 
SO - kick perfect believe out the window. It’s too fragile and too high-maintenance to bet on it. 
Half-assing it is good enough. It gets you moving. And KEEPS you moving. 
In this weeks episode we will also speak about 3 BIG, COMMON objections your brain will 1000% offer you once you get started moving towards any achievement.SO - lets get specific and talk about how to pivot back into believing just enough when those really very ordinary brain farts hit the fan. 
 
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#18 Why We Do What We Do - How to Coach Yourself PART 3

For those of you who want to learn how to coach yourself - the Podcast Miniseries is hereby continued! (Go to: #8 Facts versus story - PART 1#9 Feelings are Wealth - PART 2If you want to start at the beginning - they are building up on each other!) 
And also - HELLO New Years Resolution that you set eagerly hoping that the midnight bell will randomly give you that damn WILLPOWER to finally turn your whole life around… which you already broke a week into the new year….
Totally NOT shaming you here!Just using this time of the year to make a point: if it was just a matter of WILLPOWER to do the things we said we would… I guess we would actually be much more like machines and human race would need a different name.Because - NO. You don’t have buttons that just need fixing. You are not broken - because there are NO BUTTONS. 
So let´s talk about why we do what we do? Or don’t do what we wanted to?And how that can be applied in your self-coaching.I will say already this much - its all about your FEELINGS.Coz they drive our actions. 
LISTEN ON for more! 
 
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#17 TRUST

Business relationships can feel like marriages oftentimes.I mean - you would not be the first one if you spent MORE TIME with your founding partner than with your spouse…. And one thing I hear  A LOT when people consider starting or struggle to continue such a partnership: „I need to be able to trust them.“
Such a lovely, innocent sentence. YES - trust is crucial for any committed relationship. But it has way less to do with THE OTHER person than you think! 
Here is another translation of this cute sentence: Please continue to do what you are doing today…. Don’t change, don’t surprise me. Be predictable. ONLEY THEN - can I trust you. 
And if we know one thing for sure - people change. People do illogical things. Humans are unpredictable. That’s a fact. 
And if you tie your ability to trust somebody to their NOT-CHANGING - you are building this important aspect of a fruitful relationships on a VERY wobbly fundament. Actually - NO fundament at all. Tune in to figure out how to tackle TRUST instead!
 
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