# 22 Insecurity

No - this is not a manual on how to be LESS insecure! 
If this is what I were offering here - I would agree with your story, that insecurity is a problem.

And this is where we will begin in this weeks episode:
Wiggling a little at that deeply rooted believe that insecurity is UNPROFESSIONAL. 
If this is you I would love to offer you following questions (for the sake of the wiggling):
What is YOUR definition of professionality? How would you love others to show up in the work context? 
What behaviors would open up a business situation? What would allow for more REAL you to express?

Wonderful. 

Then comes a plot twist…
Coz when we are insecure - we are usually dying for one thing in particular: EXTERNAL VALIDATION!
In the form of hoping that other people will take us seriously, will agree with us, love our content etc…
Which usually sounds very innocent and like you really CARE FOR THE OTHER.
Something like…„I really want them to have a transformative experience during my workshop“ 

However what is really going on when you are looking for relieve of your insecurity in the reaction of the other:
The whole interaction actually becomes about YOU!
Yes - you read that correctly. 
You scan what’s going on in that moment for signs that they ARE taking you seriously, that they in fact DO approve of your content… 
You are not actually present, as in listening, feeling out the room… for the good of your client. 
Which would then allow you to really show up with care for who you want to serve (if that is what you want!). 

Listen on for more intricate side effects of NOT owning our insecurities!

 

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