#9 Feelings are Wealth - How to Coach Yourself PART 2

Oh dear!
I am so fired up about this topic.

Coz let’s be honest - what have you learned about HOW TO FEEL? What has been modeled to you when you were little? 

I assume something like - „we love you most when you are a little bit happy and friendly without the edges so you don’t confront us with our own emotional depths and wounds that we have absolutely no damn idea how to deal with. 
If you DO however escape this narrow window of expression that we deem appropriate for you, we will dismiss you, tell you off, ignore it …“ 

And then we grow up and internalize those voices! 
And have NO relationship to our feelings. 

It is mind boggling to me how we humans are FEELING things ALL THE F*** TIME and have been taught to be ashamed of most of it. 
And shame always works like an electric fence of „don’t go there“! 

 

***BTW! Please go check out ALL of David Bedrick´s work on Un-shaming our emotions. 
His work is a real paradigm shift of how we look at healing, therapy and trauma work as a way to meet yourself and your strengths instead of „healing“ you into a socially more acceptable version. 

This is his homepage: https://www.davidbedrick.com/
And go find him on Instagram: @david.bedrick
You won’t regret it! ****

 

What has started when we were little continues in our adult lifes - strong emotions are mostly seen an inconvenience, a problem, something to deal with neatly on your own. 
ESPECIALLY in a business context.

No wonder we are at war with our internal landscape. Trying to rid ourself of them completely or to control them at best. 

And, let’s be honest - has that EVER actually worked? 

Regardless the answer - I don’t even know why we would want to?
Feelings are the most real thing we have - A SENSATION IN YOUR BODY.
The stuff that LIFE is made of!

And in this weeks episode I will talk about why we are so afraid of FEELING.
And offer you 2 powerful practices to befriend those magnetic waves that we so often are desperately avoiding. 

What you will learn from this episode: 
- how to become your own compassionate witness
- why we usually don’t even know how we really feel 
- how to process your feelings
- what you can do to remove your stories ABOUT the feelings that create so much additional suffering 

 

For any inquires to coach with Mirjam reach out to: 
mirjam@soegner.com

Find me on instagram @school_of_impact
 
Or book a free 30 min Coaching Session with me HERE.