#25 Own Your Wants

Remember as a kid when you really wanted some candy before dinner?
And your mom would not let you have some because… it does not make sense. And you don’t NEED it. 

As grown ups - many of us still relate to our WANTS as if there was a mom telling us off for desiring what we don’t actually NEED.
How this is playin out then in our inner emotional landscape is us today looks like spending lots and lots of brain power guilt tripping about WANTING something in the first place and secondly finding seemingly logical (let me tell you they are never logical!) reasons for why we actually really NEED the thing we want so bad. 

So wer are squeezing your dreams and wishes into the very very small „I believe I NEED this“ box in the hope that THEN it will feel SAFE to go after what we most DESIRE. 
But…NEEDING and WANTING /DESIRE have very little in common. 
The neat Venn diagram we so desperately try to produce in our minds does not exist. 
Simply because NEEDING something implies a purpose or a goal. 
I need a match if I want to light a candle. 
I need a computer to write an email.

When it comes to our lives - what do we really NEED?
… to survive? 
A bit of grain and a tent…?
If you are reading this email - you most likely got that covered  (which is amazing btw! And something not to take for granted!) 
There IS REALLY NO OVERLAP with your desires though - and its ok.

In this episode I want to clean up those mind-contortions disguised as „voice-of-reason“ and give your full permission to OWN what you WANT. 
Viel Spaß
Bussi 
Mirjam 

 

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